He began calls every week dating
In March, my boyfriend of almost three years and I both realized that we want different things in life and decided mutually to break things off for good (after a brief breakup this past fall).In May, almost two months after we broke up, he began a new relationship. The first call was a question he knew only I could help him with. The third, fourth, fifth, and many other calls since have been to discuss how things have been, how I’ve been doing, what he’s been up to, etc.Granted I don't see anything wrong with us not talking today. Both women I have dated since my divorce have similar medical conditions and also no longer work. I may not see her every day but I'll talk to her every day. If nothing else, I'm gonna text "good morning, beautiful" and "good night, sweetheart" every day. Tough call, but attentive is what I'm aiming for and both ladies said they loved the attention.I have noticed from past experience if I initiate all the conversation every day I tend to come off as too available all the time and don't allow a girl to 'wonder', not that I am into games. Also, I should mention, I only date exclusively and make that clear up front.Some think that if he doesn't text first, he MUST not be interested.Or if he stops texting throughout a conversation, he MUST not want to talk. You can read about me here, peruse the archives here and read popular posts here.If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice.
To be sure you don’t give the wrong impression, “set a date for the future, and make it the right time of day and place so the intention of getting to know each other is there in the beginning,” recommends Ian Kerner, Ph.
He might not want to contact you or he may not be interested.
You may be coming on too fast if you are not already dating and this may be intimidating. Before you accuse someone of not texting or calling you because they like someone else, realize that these situations do not always occur.
But then he quickly follows up with “…but I have a girlfriend.”I asked him if his girlfriend knew we were talking like this. Well, a few nights ago I ran into him at a bar and we were just talking for few minutes, and his girlfriend glared at me the entire time. At any rate, your question isn’t really about her or even her relationship with your ex-boyfriend; it’s about you and whether you can have a friendship with your ex.
Afterwards, she dragged him out into the parking lot and demanded it was time to leave. And the answer is: not with the current state of things.